Social Media has made us Adoration-Junkies
Followers, stats and likes.
That’s all we seem to think about if we’re on social media. The more we see engagement, the happier we feel. Whether we’d like to admit or not, the affirmation that we receive from people send us to a different place.
We weren’t always like this. Or perhaps we were but, it never surfaced. Everyone wants to be rich and famous. But, most people give up on that dream some point into their lives.
But, with social media the dream of being famous remains alive. Anyone can become internet famous. You don’t always have to have anything of value to share. Tweets that get the most engagement are often the ones that are simply entertaining and sensational. I know it sounds harsh but, the age-old adage of media hasn’t changed much — sex and scandal sells. We’ve just put a different spin on it.
Social media brings out the narcissist in us. Remaining humble becomes a real challenge. I’ve seen people transformed from quiet writers who’ve posted valuable, thoughtful content to cocky, arrogant people with a chip on their shoulders.
And it’s so easy to fall into this trap because we’ve become adoration junkies. Who doesn’t want to be celebrated? Who doesn’t want the attention?
Moreover, when you consider that most of the people who are social media fiends are usually people who have time on their hands to post endlessly, you begin to realize that they are people who have more of secluded life or perhaps not so much to do with the outside world. Okay, I get that this is quite a sweeping statement and not true of everyone but, it is a valid point.
So any amount of attention and adoration makes us elated. And when I say us, I include myself in this. As much as I would like to say that I am immune to the perils of this short-term gratification. I am not. I have spent an inordinate amount of time trying to build my social media profile and often is the case that not getting the attention I thought I would, does create a source of displeasure.
We need to break this loop. It’s not at all bad to try and be helpful on social media. But, tying your self-worth to something like that is never healthy. I get that being adored is awesome but, not to the point where the only validation you seek are from strangers online. We give strangers too much power. It’s time to take it back.